QUERY: My 10-year-old daughter is a topper and she doesn't like being buddies with children who aren't best scorers. I wish to inform her that marks aren't the entirety. Please lend a hand
EXPERT: "I'm positive it's a proud feeling for you to have this sort of brilliant child but on the same time I can understand your apprehensions in terms of her opting for her buddies. We all reside in an international of rat race the place the entirety is ready achievements and luck. Unfortunately knowingly or unknowingly our children also are being subjected to this sort of mind set from the very beginning itself, the place there is a very clear demarcation between 'winners' and 'losers'!
From what you've gotten shared it kind of feels like your child chooses to be with the 'winners' who can have a excellent affect on her. Though this mindset won't have much repercussions at this age but when this continues we can quickly enough be able to see its impact on her and her social life.
While I'm positive you are a doing a perfect process parenting her, it is always a good idea to look inside yourself and around you for your family and see in case any individual is promoting this sort of mindset. Words like 'you're the absolute best', 'foolish people don't ranking well', 'your pals have a power on you and should you hangout with explicit kind of people you'll turn out to be like that' tend to create this sort of mindset. In case you end up or any individual around using such phrases kindly refrain.
Children also be told from the movements of the adults. So, understand the kinds of conversations you and your spouse have in entrance of the kid. While telling her verbally that everybody is equal is excellent, I would also inspire you to show her how everyone has a unique skill, and training is solely one of the vital many skills people have.
At this level I can also urge you to take her to an NGO with youngsters and make her play with them, so that she learns the art of sharing and the sense of equality.
I hope those tips will allow you to, when you have to any extent further queries be happy to achieve out to me."
Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is the HOD of the Holistic Medicine & Psychology - Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon
EXPERT: "I'm positive it's a proud feeling for you to have this sort of brilliant child but on the same time I can understand your apprehensions in terms of her opting for her buddies. We all reside in an international of rat race the place the entirety is ready achievements and luck. Unfortunately knowingly or unknowingly our children also are being subjected to this sort of mind set from the very beginning itself, the place there is a very clear demarcation between 'winners' and 'losers'!
From what you've gotten shared it kind of feels like your child chooses to be with the 'winners' who can have a excellent affect on her. Though this mindset won't have much repercussions at this age but when this continues we can quickly enough be able to see its impact on her and her social life.
While I'm positive you are a doing a perfect process parenting her, it is always a good idea to look inside yourself and around you for your family and see in case any individual is promoting this sort of mindset. Words like 'you're the absolute best', 'foolish people don't ranking well', 'your pals have a power on you and should you hangout with explicit kind of people you'll turn out to be like that' tend to create this sort of mindset. In case you end up or any individual around using such phrases kindly refrain.
Children also be told from the movements of the adults. So, understand the kinds of conversations you and your spouse have in entrance of the kid. While telling her verbally that everybody is equal is excellent, I would also inspire you to show her how everyone has a unique skill, and training is solely one of the vital many skills people have.
At this level I can also urge you to take her to an NGO with youngsters and make her play with them, so that she learns the art of sharing and the sense of equality.
I hope those tips will allow you to, when you have to any extent further queries be happy to achieve out to me."
Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is the HOD of the Holistic Medicine & Psychology - Artemis Hospital, Gurgaon
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May 06, 2019
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